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Getting help safely: domestic abuse and separation

Safe ways to ask for help, protection and support after separating.

Excuse me, can I ask for ANI?

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Secret ways to ask3

  1. Can I Ask for ANI?A codeword at participating pharmacies and Jobcentres.
  2. 999, then press 55The Silent Solution.
  3. Can I speak to Angela?'Ask for Angela' is a code for bar staff at participating pubs, bars and clubs.

Telling a professional5

  1. I'm scared to go homeA short, clear sentence to say to a GP, police officer, teacher or pharmacist.
  2. He checks my phone and controls my moneyThis describes coercive control, which is a crime.
  3. Can I speak to someone on my own?At a GP surgery or hospital you can ask to be seen without your partner in the room.
  4. I'd like a professional interpreter, not my husbandYou can ask for an independent interpreter.
  5. I need a refuge spaceA refuge is a safe house with a secret address.

Protection and rights3

  1. Can I get a non-molestation order?A family court order that stops someone threatening or harassing you.
  2. I'd like to make a Clare's Law requestThe Domestic Violence Disclosure Scheme.
  3. My visa depends on my partnerSay this to support services.

Separating3

  1. We've split upThe everyday way to say a couple has separated.
  2. We're sorting out child arrangementsThe legal term in England and Wales is 'child arrangements' (who the child lives with and spends time with), not custody.
  3. Do we have to go to mediation?Usually you have to go to a mediation information meeting (a MIAM) before going to family court about children.
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